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12 days of Sexmas - Christmas challenges for adults
The holiday season is full of traditions — decorating the tree, exchanging gifts, and spending time with family. But for many couples, December can also be busy, stressful, and surprisingly disconnected.
That’s why more couples are discovering 12 Days of Sexmas — a playful and intimate adult Christmas challenge for couples designed to bring romance, connection, and anticipation back into the holidays.
What Is the 12 Days of Sexmas?
The 12 Days of Sexmas is an adult holiday countdown inspired by the traditional 12 Days of Christmas. Instead of material gifts, couples enjoy one romantic or playful task per day over twelve days.
This couples Christmas challenge focuses on:
- Emotional connection
- Physical closeness
- Playfulness and flirtation
- Shared experiences instead of things
Many couples choose to use a printable 12 Days of Sexmas challenge, making it easy to start instantly and enjoy at home.
Printable Adult Christmas Challenge for Couples
12 Days of Sexy Christmas
- Turn the holiday season into a playful time together!
- Designed for couples (18+)
- Each day offers a romantic or flirty task for him and her, designed to build anticipation and create meaningful moments together.
What Are Sexmas Tasks Like?
Sexmas is suitable for a wide range of couples and comfort levels.
- Words That Lead to Kisses
Give each other two compliments — one about appearance and one about character.
Take your time, make it sincere, and let your partner really feel those words.
And after each compliment… seal it with a kiss. - The Center of Sexual Energy
Lie down on your back. Your partner has to perform a gentle massage with his moistened fingers and tongue four centimeters below your belly button. That’s where the center of sexual energy is located!
- Boobjob Reinvented
The man licks the woman's breasts while she is on top.
Before he goes down on you, be ready to enjoy his tongue on your breasts. If you're into dominance and submission, this is the right moment to incorporate dirty talk. - Use Your Words - Tonight, share with each other the things that spark your desire the fastest — the little moments, gestures, and touches that make your heart race. Be very descriptive and use examples of your favorite positions.
Mmm…assage!
Nothing is more relaxing than a sensual massage. Light some candles, put on
some zen music, and turn up the heat to
set the perfect mood. Then give her a long and relaxing full-body massage.
Here are a few simple ideas:
How to Make Sexmas Part of Your ChristmasTradition
- Print the tasks and place them in envelopes
- Open one task each morning
- Treat it as a shared ritual, not a to-do
list - Adapt tasks if needed — connection matters more than rules
21.Indulge in a Sensual Massage - Set the stage for intimacy with a slow, deliberate sensual massage. Whether giving or receiving, this tender interaction can relax the body and heighten the senses, often leading to more profound and intimate experiences. Use this time to explore each other's bodies with care and attention, setting a perfect precursor to further passion.
22.Attend a Sex Party - Take a walk on the wild side by exploring the exciting world of swingers or sex parties. This adventurous experience can open up new avenues in your relationship, allowing you to explore boundaries and desires in a safe and consensual environment. It's a bold way to experience new things together and can add an unexpected, thrilling layer to your intimacy.
23.Have Sex in the Car - Rekindle the thrill of your teenage years by getting frisky in the backseat of your car. This nostalgic escapade can add a sense of adventure and spontaneity to your relationship, bringing back the excitement of those early, daring romantic encounters. Whether parked in a secluded spot or just stealing a moment away from the world, car sex offers a fun twist on intimacy.
24.Write Each Other Erotic Stories - Unleash your creativity by writing down your deepest fantasies and sharing them with each other. This intimate exchange of erotic stories can not only fuel your imagination but also spark new ideas and desires within your relationship. It's a wonderful way to communicate your hidden wishes and explore scenarios that excite you both, deepening your connection through the power of words.
25.Try Temperature Play - Experiment with the thrilling contrasts of hot and cold to discover a spectrum of sensations. Incorporate hot wax, ice, or warm oils to enhance your sensory experience. For those new to temperature play, consider starting with OpenMity's kissable massage candles, which offer a gentle introduction to the dynamic world of hot and cool sensations.
26.Experience Edging - Dive into the exhilarating practice of edging, where you bring each other tantalizingly close to climax, then pause, extending pleasure to heighten the eventual orgasm. This technique not only intensifies the final release but also deepens your mutual understanding and control over each other's pleasure points. It's a thrilling way to explore endurance and delight in each other's arousal.
27.Attend a Nude Beach Together - Embrace body positivity and freedom by visiting a nude beach with your partner. This experience allows you to get comfortable with public nudity and celebrate confidence in your own skin. It's a unique opportunity to bond over shared vulnerability and enjoyment of nature, potentially deepening your connection and comfort with each other in a liberating setting.
28.Engage in Exhibitionism - Tap into the exhilarating thrill of being watched. Whether it's in the privacy of your own home with the curtains drawn back or in a more daring public setting, exhibitionism can add an intense element of excitement and adrenaline to your intimate experiences. This bold venture can intensify feelings of vulnerability and arousal, making each moment even more electrifying.
29.Explore Voyeurism - Dive into the arousing world of voyeurism by watching others engage in intimate acts, whether in person or through video. This can be a thrilling way to experience pleasure indirectly, heightening your own excitement and desire.
30.Use a Feather for Sensation Play - Introduce a feather tickler into your intimate moments to enhance sensation play. Gently tease each other's skin with the soft touch of a feather, creating a tantalizing and stimulating experience that can elevate arousal. Our Steamy Anniversary box includes not only a feather tickler but also a sexy card game for couples and a blindfold to further enrich your playful explorations. Enjoy this delicate dance of touch and excitement.
31.Take a Bath Together - Immerse yourselves in a warm, soothing bath and let the relaxation naturally flow into deeper intimacy. Sharing a bath can be a luxurious way to unwind, connect, and set the stage for something more. The calming atmosphere and closeness of your bodies can easily lead to heightened arousal and a memorable, intimate experience.
32.Experiment with Lingerie - Add a touch of excitement by slipping into something sexy and surprising your partner with the reveal. Whether it's lacy, bold, or seductive, lingerie can transform the mood and ignite desire. Dressing up not only enhances your confidence but also adds an enticing visual element to your intimate moments, making the experience even more thrilling for both of you.
33.Engage in a Strip Tease - Turn up the heat by performing a private strip tease for your partner. Slowly and seductively remove each piece of clothing, building anticipation with every movement. This playful act of undressing can create an electrifying atmosphere, where the tease is just as exciting as the reveal. It's a fun and intimate way to captivate your partner and heighten the mood.
34.Use a Remote-Controlled Vibrator - Hand over control and let your partner dictate your pleasure from a distance with a remote-controlled vibrator. Whether you're across the room or out in public, this playful and teasing device adds an element of surprise and excitement, allowing your partner to turn up the intensity whenever they please.
35.Try Erotic Photography - Immortalize your most intimate moments by capturing them on camera, creating a private collection just for the two of you. Erotic photography can be a powerful way to celebrate your bodies and the connection you share.
36.Try a New Kind of Lubricant - Elevate your intimate experiences by experimenting with different types of lubricants, such as flavored, warming, or cooling varieties. Each type brings its own unique sensation, adding an extra layer of excitement and novelty to your encounters. Whether you're enhancing oral play with a delicious flavor or intensifying touch with warming or cooling effects, these lubricants can open up new avenues of pleasure for both you and your partner.
37. BDSM element - Light Bondage: When it comes to tying each other up, we keep it light—so light that one can escape without assistance if it feels necessary. However, tying someone’s hands to the bed can introduce an element of power play that's a top fantasy for many, according to surveys.
38.Attend a Couples’ Sex Workshop - Invest in your intimacy by attending a couples’ sex workshop. These workshops offer a safe and educational environment to learn new techniques, explore different aspects of sexuality, and deepen your connection with your partner.
39.Have a Spanking Session - Introduce a playful edge to your intimate moments with a light spanking session. This can add a tantalizing sting to your playtime, heightening excitement and deepening the connection between you and your partner. Whether you’re experimenting for the first time or already enjoy this dynamic, a little spanking can bring a fun and adventurous element to your bedroom activities.
40.Play with Nipple Clamps - Bring an extra layer of intensity to your intimate moments by experimenting with nipple clamps. These small but powerful tools can heighten sensitivity and arousal, adding a thrilling edge to your play.
41.Engage in Phone Sex - Keep the spark alive even when you’re apart by indulging in some steamy phone sex. This intimate form of communication allows you to express your desires, share fantasies, and build anticipation, all through the power of your voice. Whether you’re whispering sweet nothings or diving into dirty talk, phone sex can be a thrilling way to stay connected and keep the passion burning, no matter the distance.
42. Exploring Anal Play: Delve into the realm of anal pleasure, whether it's with toys, fingers, or gentle penetration. There's a common belief that women can also achieve orgasm through anal stimulation, making it a potentially exhilarating addition to your sexual repertoire. If you're curious, it might be worth experimenting to discover new sensations and experiences. Remember, communication and consent are key, and using plenty of lubricant will make the exploration smoother and more enjoyable for both partners.
43.Explore Electro-Sex - Add a new level of excitement to your playtime by experimenting with mild electrical stimulation. Electro-sex introduces a tingling, buzzing sensation that can heighten arousal and create a thrilling, unique experience. Start with gentle settings to explore how your body responds, and communicate openly with your partner to ensure a safe and enjoyable time. This electrifying activity can be a shocking good way to spice up your intimate moments.
44.Try Food Play - Sweeten your intimate moments by incorporating delicious treats like whipped cream, chocolate syrup, or strawberries into your playtime. Drizzle, dip, and devour as you explore each other’s bodies in a sensual and tasty way. Food play adds a fun, indulgent twist to your experience, turning your partner into the most irresistible dessert.
45.Explore Different Positions - Keep things fresh and exciting by experimenting with new and adventurous positions in the bedroom. Trying out different angles and techniques can help you discover what feels best for both you and your partner, adding variety and spontaneity to your intimate moments. Have a glance on our Box of Burning Desires game which has 50 different sex ideas and 50 foreplay moves.
46.Make a Sex Playlist - The right music can elevate your experience, helping you and your partner get lost in the rhythm of each other’s bodies. A well-crafted playlist can enhance intimacy, making your time together even more memorable and electrifying.
47.Do It While Fully Clothed - Turn up the anticipation and excitement by keeping your clothes on. This playful approach can transform the ordinary into something irresistibly steamy.
48. Do Some Kegel Exercises - Strengthen your pelvic muscles by practicing Kegel exercises daily, and then take it up a notch by incorporating them into your intimate moments. Engaging these muscles during sex can intensify sensations for both you and your partner, leading to more powerful orgasms.
49. 69-ing - Dive into the intimate and exhilarating world of 69-ing, where you and your partner can simultaneously give and receive pleasure. This position creates a unique blend of vulnerability and connection, making it the ultimate bonding experience.
50. Reverse Cowgirl -Take charge in the reverse cowgirl position, where you’re in full control of the pace and rhythm. This exciting twist not only lets you set the tempo but also gives your partner a front-row seat to enjoy the view of your booty, making it an incredibly hot experience for them. It’s a powerful, sexy position that combines visual appeal with intimate control, ensuring maximum pleasure for both of you.
51. Pull Your Partner's Hair - Add a playful edge to your intimacy by gently pulling your partner’s hair. This simple act can heighten arousal and introduce a touch of dominance or passion to your encounter.
52. Go to a Virtual Sex Party - Explore new horizons by attending a virtual sex party, where you can connect with others in a safe, digital space. This experience allows you to indulge in the thrill of exhibitionism or voyeurism from the comfort of your own home. Whether you participate actively or just observe, a virtual sex party offers a unique way to explore your fantasies, push boundaries, and add a novel twist to your intimate life.
53. Try Edging - Edging is a powerful technique that anyone, regardless of gender, can use to make their orgasms more intense and explosive. By bringing yourself or your partner close to the brink of climax and then pulling back, you build up sexual tension that leads to an incredibly satisfying release. It’s a tantalizing way to heighten pleasure, increase control, and experience some of the most mind-blowing orgasms ever.
54 Vacation at a Sex Resort - Take your getaway to the next level by booking a stay at a sex resort. These adult-only destinations are designed to create a sensual, liberating atmosphere where you can explore your fantasies, meet like-minded couples, and enjoy a wide range of erotic activities. Whether you’re looking to relax by the pool in nothing but your skin or indulge in themed parties and workshops, a sex resort offers an unforgettable experience that combines adventure, intimacy, and relaxation in a uniquely exciting way.
55. Try Vibrating Panties with Your Partner in Public - Add a thrilling twist to your date night by slipping on a pair of vibrating panties and letting your partner take control. The discreet vibrations, activated by your partner, create an exciting and naughty secret between the two of you, adding an element of anticipation and playful tension. Whether you're out for dinner or just enjoying a walk, this adventurous activity is sure to bring a new level of excitement and connection to your relationship.
56. Have Slow, Tantric Sex - Embrace the art of deep connection and heightened pleasure by engaging in super slow, tantric sex. Focus on every touch, breath, and movement, savoring the sensations and building an intense emotional and physical bond with your partner. This mindful approach to intimacy allows you to connect on a deeper level, prolonging pleasure and creating a profoundly fulfilling experience for both of you.
57. Try a Finger Up the Butt - Add a new dimension to your intimate play by gently exploring anal stimulation with a finger. This can be a highly pleasurable experience for many, enhancing arousal and adding variety to your sexual repertoire. Start slow, use plenty of lubricant, and communicate openly with your partner to ensure comfort and enjoyment.
58. Try Rimming - Explore new realms of intimacy by giving or receiving rimming, where the focus is on stimulating your partner's anus with your tongue. This can be an incredibly intimate and arousing experience that deepens your connection and brings a whole new level of pleasure.
59. Take a Fetish Quiz Together - Discover new fantasies and explore each other’s desires by taking a fetish quiz together. This fun and revealing activity can open up conversations about what turns you on, uncovering shared interests or introducing you to new ideas you might want to try.
60. Considering a Threesome: Inviting a third person into your intimate moments is a topic that often sparks debate—should it remain an experience just between two, or is it an adventure you want to explore together? Ultimately, the decision is deeply personal. What's clear from many surveys is that a threesome ranks as one of the top fantasies for many men. If this is something you're considering, it's crucial to have open and honest discussions about boundaries, expectations, and emotions to ensure it's a positive experience for everyone involved.
61. Try Prostate Massage - Explore a new realm of pleasure by trying a prostate massage. Often referred to as the male G-spot, the prostate can offer intense sensations when stimulated. Whether using fingers or a specialized toy, a prostate massage can lead to powerful orgasms and heightened sexual satisfaction. As with any new experience, communication and comfort are key—start slow, use plenty of lubricant, and enjoy the journey of discovering new pleasure points together.
62. Explore Squirting - Embark on a journey of discovery by exploring the phenomenon of squirting. Often referred to as female ejaculation, squirting can be an intense and rewarding experience for many women. It involves stimulating the G-spot in a way that may lead to the release of fluid, resulting in powerful sensations and orgasms.
63. Try Sexting - Keep the flames of desire burning even when you're apart by diving into the art of sexting. Send flirty, suggestive messages that build anticipation and excitement throughout the day.
64. Blended Orgasm - Experience the ultimate pleasure by exploring a blended orgasm, where multiple types of stimulation are combined to create an intensely powerful climax. This often involves simultaneous clitoral and vaginal or G-spot stimulation for women or combining prostate and penile stimulation for men.
65. Give or Receive a "Golden Shower" - For those exploring the boundaries of intimacy and trust, a "golden shower," or the act of urinating on a partner, can be an intense and highly personal experience. This form of water play is often about pushing limits, embracing vulnerability, and sharing a unique form of connection.
66. Use Ben Wa Balls - Enhance your pelvic floor strength and enjoy discreet pleasure by using Ben Wa balls. These small, weighted balls are inserted into the vagina and can be worn throughout the day. The gentle movement of the balls helps to strengthen the pelvic muscles, leading to stronger orgasms and increased sensitivity. Plus, the subtle sensation can provide a secret thrill as you go about your daily activities, adding an exciting layer of anticipation and arousal.
67. Go on a Date with No Bra or Panties - Add an electrifying sense of daring and excitement to your next date night by leaving your bra and panties at home. The thrill of knowing you’re bare beneath your clothes can heighten arousal and create a playful secret between you and your partner.
68. Wake Your Partner Up with Oral Pleasure - Start the day with an intimate surprise by waking your partner up with a blowjob or cunnilingus. This unexpected gesture of affection can set a passionate tone for the day, leaving your partner feeling cherished and deeply connected to you.
69. Use a Sex Swing - Take your bedroom adventures to new heights by introducing a sex swing. This versatile piece of equipment allows you to explore a range of positions with ease and comfort, adding a fun and exhilarating dynamic to your intimate moments.
