Sexual Fantasies - Examples and ideas

Enter sexual fantasies, a powerful weapon to help us go from zero to hero, discover new layers about ourselves and our partners, and create the ultimate pleasure and bonding experience. Think of this playbook as a journey you're embarking on with your partner to learn about each other and understand new ways to receive and give pleasure. We'll look at theory and practice and guide you through this new experience.
Although it's a well-known fact that our mental state plays a crucial role in our level of arousal (simply put, our mind makes us feel horny) and the quality of our intimate experiences, the truth is that most of us tend to focus on physical sensations during sex. We disconnect our minds from our bodies, so when we are in the moment, getting down and dirty, our attention usually turns to the actions we engage in, the touches we feel, and the physical sensations that accompany them.
Sex should be a complete sensory experience that tantalizes our minds and our bodies. Helping the mind get in the mood and let loose should be a prerequisite for sex. Sexual fantasies play a key role in helping us get to a mental and physical state where we're fully in tune with ourselves and ready to experience intimacy and pleasure in order to have an all-encompassing orgasmic experience.
The pressing question is: how can we get in the mood when we're constantly bombarded by distractions? One answer lies in sexual fantasies, which can serve as a secret gateway to a magical realm where external noise fades away and anticipation builds.

• Taboo and forbidden sex - Breaking the rules and facing the potential consequences of being caught can be exciting, regardless of the situation. This rush of adrenaline can make a sexual encounter even more thrilling. However, engaging in public sex can lead to legal trouble, which is why many people prefer to keep these desires as fantasies. Popular settings for these illicit encounters include parks, offices, beaches, and elevators.
• Partner sharing and nonmonogamous relationships - Many people enjoy the idea of having more than one partner, whether it's through threesomes or by opening up their relationship with their partner's consent. Some individuals even find pleasure in watching their partner engage in sexual activity with another person.
• Passion and romance - Not all sexual fantasies need to be explicit or vulgar. Many individuals simply fantasize about having intimate and meaningful sex that makes them feel desired and satisfied. Sometimes, people use these fantasies to help improve their self-image or sexual performance in real life.
• Erotic flexibility—specifically, homoeroticism and gender-bending -As society becomes more accepting and understands the complexities of gender and sexuality, people are feeling more comfortable exploring their own sexuality. Many heterosexual women, for example, have shared that they fantasize about having sexual experiences with other women. Similarly, heterosexual men who were surveyed said that they often fantasize about having sex with other men or with a transgender woman

Tie up + blindfold + oral - example from the Box of Burning Desires game

I can feel you pushing my legs apart, opening them, exposing me. I moan and bite my lip. All I see is darkness. The ropes that are holding me tense when I gently pull at them. You have me tied and I’m just for you to use.
I then feel your head between my legs and then how you start sucking at my delta. My body arches and the ropes tighten around my wrists. I’m letting out moans and whimpers as you tease my clitoris with your tongue. Sensorial deprivation has focused my nervous endings on touch, makes me enjoy every moment even more, and every sensation is enhanced. It’s just… breathtaking.
I can’t wait for you to penetrate me.

Tied + blindfold + rimjob + blowjob
I pull at the ropes. They’re taut. I never knew you were so adept at tying. And you’re good, because the blindfold is so tight around my eyes I can’t see a thing. I can only hear you, smell you, feel you as all of a sudden you start stimulating my anal opening with your tongue. It’s a new sensation and I can’t help but shivering. My body hair is standing on its end, as my cock. It’s so hard, and throbbing, it almost hurts. It’s a relief when you take it inside your mouth, and I let out an agonizing moan when you finally take me to a long, drawn-out orgasm.

(scenario from the Box of Burning Desires game)

On a chair
You are giving me another lapdance, which is great, because I love them. However, this time I’m sitting on a chair, instead of the comfortable sofa. I think you have something for me and I want to know what it is.
My question is answered when you bury yourself on your cock, straddling me. I’m almost smothered by your breasts. I can’t think of a better way to be smothered, though. I start sucking and licking them, while you take full control of my cock and bounce on it. Your movements are quick—you’re impaling yourself on me with full fervor and it feels so great.
However, you start playing with your breasts too. You push them up and lick them as well, and I just sit back and enjoy the view and the sensation of being pleased like a king.

69 on the sides

Foreplay is leading us towards sex. You want to ride me—but I have some other idea regarding positions. I ask you to lay on your side and say I have a surprise. I even ask you to close your eyes. You close them reluctantly. You open them when my erect cock presses against your mouth—which you have to open because I’m on my side too. You don’t even have time to react as I hug your legs and bury my head in your dripping cunt. Before you know it, my legs are wrapped around your neck and we’re both on our way to orgasm.
We should do this more often.

Engaging in fantasies and allowing your imagination to run wild is a natural and wholesome aspect of the human experience. In fact, it's an important part of maintaining a healthy sex life, building strong relationships, and promoting overall mental and physical well-being.
We've talked before about how fantasies play a big part in making us excited and helping us climax. But let's take a closer look at why exploring your fantasies is beneficial. First of all, it's important to know that having sexual fantasies is normal and nothing to be ashamed of. Many people have them, in fact, 97% of Americans according to research. Although we don't talk about them openly, there are commonalities that many people share. So don't feel weird or alone about your sexual fantasies.
It's important we don't suppress our fantasies, but quite the opposite—understand them and explore them with our partner. For most of the population, there is a scenario we tend to go back to in our minds. Something we like or think we might like to experience with our partners. For some, it plays a big part in even getting turned on. For others, it's not the most important aspect of sex, but their experience could be improved if this avenue were to be explored.

• Deeper trust, attachment, and stronger bond
  Telling your partner about your sexual fantasies can be a great way to strengthen your relationship and demonstrate your trust and affection for them. Although it can be scary to reveal something so personal, your partner will likely appreciate your honesty and bravery. It's important to only share if you feel comfortable and trust your partner. When you do share, you'll both learn more about each other and deepen your bond through this shared experience. It's an opportunity to build trust and connection together.
• Better communication
  In any relationship, communication is essential. But many of us find it hard to communicate, particularly in long-term relationships where a lot remains unsaid. To overcome this, it's important to approach all conversations with empathy and avoid being judgmental. This creates a safe space for your partner to share their thoughts openly. A simple reminder like "use your words, darling" can encourage expression rather than suppression. Sharing your sexual fantasies with your partner can help you both feel more comfortable talking about anything. Nothing will be off-limits between you.
• Mixing it up
  Not all fantasies can be brought to life. But those that can, are typically quite common and easy to play out. This gives us options to spice up our routine and try new things. Even fantasies that can't be played out can be great conversation starters. This means the age-old question, “What do you want to do tonight?” can be put to rest. Open up your fantasy world and discover new ways to connect.
• Setting the mood
  The most important erogenous zone is the brain. It's the place where everything starts brewing, and only then does the rest of the body receive signals to react to these impulses. Sexual fantasies stimulate our brains. Allowing yourself to fantasize will not only set the mood for sexy time and increase the libido but also increase the likelihood of getting the big O, which is often a struggle, especially for women.