(Before, During, After Sex &Texting)
82 Submissive Dirty Talk Examples
Attraction is about how you make someone feel in the moment—and words play a bigger role than most realize.
Upgrade your submissive dirty talk at every stage:
- Sexting (flirty, sexy texts)
- Before sex (build tension)
- During sex (enhance intensity)
- After sex (deepen intimacy)
Submissive sexy text messages to turn him on
Sexting is about creating imagination.
Create anticipation and chemistry when apart:
Examples (Boring vs Dirty & Submissive)
“What are you doing?”
- I'm touching myself and pretending it's you.
- Tell me what you wish you were doing right now…
- My lips are craving yours… and I'm not just talking about the ones on my face <-- idea from 409 Dirty Talk Examples
- Sumbissive: Are you thinking of ways to use me, Sir
Boring: “I’m thinking about you.”
Hot and Dirty:
- I can't stop thinking about your cock.
- I can't stop thinking about that thing you did last night.
- I’m yearning to be your cowgirl, riding you into ecstasy…<--example from 409 Dirty Talks
- Sub: I've been practicing my deep-throating. I can't wait to show you.
- Sub: I'm thinking about you tying me up and having your way with me.
- Sub: I'm thinking about you making me beg for your cock.
- Sub: I'm thinking about you making me beg to come.
- Sub: I'm so wet just thinking about how you're going to fill me up with your gorgeous dick.
Boring: “I miss you.”
- Hot & Dirty: I miss you… especially in ways I probably shouldn’t say out loud
- My pussy's so wet right now, and it's all your fault.
- Sub: I'm so wet for you, Sir.
- Sub: I've been a very bad girl. I think I need to be punished.
Boring: “Come over”
- Tonight, I want to feel your mouth on me while I pleasure you… in a 69.<--This is just one of many—explore all 409 Dirty Talk Examples
- Get over here and let me taste you.
- Submissive: I need to feel your hands on me. Spanking me, holding me down, marking me as yours.
- Submissive: Please, use me. I'm yours.
Boring: “Good night.”
- Hot: Try to sleep… I’ll be the reason you can’t
- I'm naked in bed. Wish you were here.
- Good night. I'll be dreaming of you inside me.
- Good night. Can't wait to wake up and ride you.
Talking dirty Before Sex
Before sex isn’t really about saying what you want… it’s about letting them feel it coming.
Boring: “Do you want to go to bed?”
Hot and Dirty:
- Take me to bed and use me.
- Let's go to bed. I need your dick inside me.
- I like getting dressed to be your slut.<--idea from 409 Dirty Talk Examples
- Let's go to bed so I can ride your cock.
- Submissive: Please, Sir, let me show you just how much I want to please you.
- Submissive: I can't wait to feel your beautiful, thick cock stretching me open.
Boring: “I want you”
Hot:
- I want to feel your cock deep inside me.
- Make me yours, let me feel your power. <--Idea from 409 Dirty Talks
- I want you to bend me over and fuck me hard.
- I want to feel your cock. In my mouth<-- idea from 409 Dirty Talks
- I want to fuck you. Now
- Submissive: I'm dying to wrap myself around your beautiful, fat dick
- I need to feel every inch of your hard, thick cock deep inside me.
- Please, let me feel you throb inside me. I need it, Sir.
Instead of “Come closer”
- Come here and let me taste you.
- Get that sexy body closer to mine.
- Come closer. I want to feel you against me.
- Stop teasing me and get over here.
- I need to kiss you. Come here
- I'm not done with you yet. Come closer.
- Submissive: Please, let me get on my knees for you. I need it.
- I'm desperate to kneel before you, to worship you, to show you just how much I want you, Sir.
How to talk dirty during sex
Enhance rhythm and intensity.
Boring: “I like this”
- Feeling your cock get hard is amazing. <--idea from 409 Dirty Talks
- Fuck, that feels so good.
- Don't stop, right there.
- I love the way you use your tongue… don’t stop <-- idea from 409 Dirty Talks
- I love it when you do that.
- Make me yours, claim every part of me <-- idea from 409 Dirty Talks
- Yes, just like that.
- Don't stop. I'm so close.
Boring: “Look at you”
- Sub/dom - Look at you. So fucking desperate for my cock.
- Look at you. You're mine. All mine.
- Look at you. Such a good girl, all spread out for me.
Boring: “Hold on”
- Hold on. I'm about to make you come.
- Hold on tight. This is going to be a wild ride.
- Control my pleasure, tell me when I'm allowed to cum. <-dea from 409 Dirty Talks
- Don't move. Just let me fuck you.
Boring: “Hold me” - Grab me and pull me in close. I need to feel your body on mine.
- I’m here to serve your desires, dominate me as you please. <-idea from 409 Dirty Talks
- Hold me close and grind your hard cock against me.
- Submissive: Hold me down while you fuck me.
After sex
After sex, attraction turns into attachment
Boring: “That was nice.”
- I'm still shaking from that.
- I want to savor you, let it go. <-Idea from 409 Dirty Talk
- I can't feel my legs.
- I'm going to be feeling that tomorrow, and I love it.
Boring: “Let’s sleep.”
- Romantic: Don’t fall asleep yet… I like this moment
- Don't fall asleep yet... I want to stay like this, with you still inside me.
- Don't fall asleep. I want to remember how you feel inside me.
Boring: “That was fun”
- Romantic: I really liked that… with you
- I can't wait to do that again.
- You're amazing in bed.
- I'm already wet again thinking about it.
Boring: “I feel good.”
- Romantic: You make me feel really good
- You know exactly how to make me feel so good.
- Your hands/mouth feel incredible on me.
- You're driving me crazy!!!
Common Mistakes to Avoid
- Being too explicit too fast
- Trying to sound like someone else
- Overthinking every word
- Ignoring emotional tone