Flirty and Kinky Texts for Couples
Sexting Examples
Good sexting is part flirtation, part imagination, and part delicious anticipation. When it comes from a place of trust and consent, it can feel playful, sexy, and intimate — all while reminding your partner just how much you want them.
In this guide, you’ll find 25 detailed sexting examples grouped by style, situation, and comfort level, including:
- How to Start Sexting
- Short Sexting Message Ideas
- Sexting Scenario Examples
- Playful Ideas of sexting
- Kinky Sexting Examples
- Sexually explicit text
- How to Ask for Feedback
- How to Use Compliments When Sexting
- Consent Tips for Sexting
- Flirty Texts for Him
- How to Sext: Practical Tips for Beginners
Sexting suggestions: how to start
Him: You looked so hot today, I couldn't stop thinking about you.
Her: Really? What were you thinking about?
Him: Let's just say my mind wasn't on work.
Her: Tell me, I want to know.
Him: I was thinking about how I'd love to see you out of those clothes.
Her: That can be arranged.
Him: Damn, you're killing me. What would you do if I were there?
Her: I'd let you take control, do whatever you want to me.
Him: I'd start by pinning you down and kissing you like I've been dying to all day.
Her: I've been waiting for this.
Him: I'd kiss my way down your body, making you squirm.
Her: I'd be moaning your name by then.
Him: I'd love to hear that. I'd make sure you're completely satisfied before I even think about myself.
Her: You always know how to drive me crazy.
Him: And you love every second of it.
Her: More than you know.
Him: Hey, what are you up to?
Her: Just lying in bed, thinking about you.
Him: Oh really? What exactly are you thinking about?
Her: Let's just say I'm not thinking about sleeping.
Him: Damn, now I'm curious. Tell me more.
Her: I've been imagining what it would feel like if you were here right now.
Him: You have no idea how much I want to be there.
Her: I can think of a few ways we could pass the time if you were.
Him: I'd start by kissing you all over.
Her: I'd like that. Where would you start?
Him: Your neck, then slowly move down.
Her: Mmm, keep going.
Him: I'd make my way to your chest, kissing every inch of you.
Her: You're making me want you even more.
Him: That's the plan. I'd love to hear what you'd do to me.
Her: I'd take my time with you, teasing you until you can't take it anymore.
Him: I'm already getting hard just thinking about it.
Her: Good. Because I'm already wet.
Him: Fuck, I wish I was there right now.
Short Sexting Message Ideas
Her: I've been thinking about you all day. I need you inside me tonight.
Him: Fuck, me too. What do you want me to do to you?
Her: Start by kissing me hard, then rip my clothes off.
Him: Done. I'm already hard just thinking about it.
Her: I want you to go down on me, make me cum with your mouth.
Him: I'll lick you until you're screaming.
Her: Then I want to ride your cock, bounce on you till we both cum.
Him: God, yes. I love watching you ride me.
Him: I'm on my way. Don't start without me.
Her: Too late, I'm already touching myself.
Him: Fuck, send me a pic.
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Him: Tonight, I'll start by kissing your neck and sliding my hand down your body.
Her: Yes, please. Touch me everywhere.
Him: I'll spread your legs and eat you out until you're screaming my name.
Her: Fuck, I want your tongue on me so bad.
Him: Then I'll slide my cock inside you, slow and deep.
Her: God, yes. I need to feel you inside me.
Him: I'll go harder, faster, make you cum all over me.
Her: I'm so close already. Fuck me hard.
Him: I'm gonna cum deep inside you. You ready?
Her: Yes, cum for me. Fill me up
Sexting Examples: Write Them a Little Scenario
His message to her: I've been thinking about you all day, and I can't wait to get you alone. I'm gonna start by kissing your neck, making you shiver, then slide my hand under your shirt to feel your soft skin. I want to tease you until you're begging me to touch you more, to take you right there. When I finally get you on the bed, I'll spread your legs and taste you, making sure you're wet and ready. Then I'll slowly slide inside you, feeling you tighten around me as I go deeper. I'll take my time, making you moan, then I'll go faster, harder, until you can't hold back and you're coming hard. I won't stop until I'm right there with you, filling you up completely.
Her message to him:
I want you to push me up against the wall, your hands all over me, ripping off my clothes. I want to feel your breath on my neck as you kiss me hard, your hands sliding down to grab my ass. When you bend me over the bed, I'll be so ready for you, dripping wet and begging you to take me. I want to feel you thrust deep inside me, your body pressing against mine, your hands gripping my hips as you fuck me harder and harder.
Ideas of sexting:
Roleplay sexting example
Her: I want to be your French maid tonight.
Him: That's a classic fantasy. I love it.
Her: I'll wear a sexy maid outfit with a short skirt.
Him: I'll be looking forward to it. You'll look amazing.
Her: I'll clean your house and serve you in any way you want.
Him: I'll have a few tasks for you, don't worry.
Her: What's my first task, sir?
Him: Start by dusting the furniture. I'll be watching.
Her: Yes, sir. I'll make sure to bend over so you can see my panties.
Him: Good girl. I like your attention to detail.
Him: I’ll have you clean something else.
Him: My cock. You’ll get on your knees and clean it with your mouth.
Her: Yes, sir. I'll suck it deep.
Him: That's a good maid. You’ll keep going until I’m satisfied.
Her: I'll do my best, sir. I want to please you.
Him: Tonight, you'll be my favorite maid.
Her: I'm honored, sir. I'll be ready for you tonight.
Him: I'll be waiting. Don't be late.
Kinky Sexting example
Him: I want to tie you up and tease you until you're begging for me to fuck you.
Her: Yes, tie me up and make me your little plaything.
Him: I'll run my hands all over your body, teasing your nipples and clit.
Her: I'll be dripping wet for you, desperate for your cock.
Him: I'll slide my fingers inside you, making you moan and squirm.
Her: Please, I need more. Fuck me hard.
Him: Not yet. I'll make you wait until you can't take it anymore.
Her: I'll do anything, just please fuck me.
Him: Then I'll untie you, bend you over, and fuck you hard from behind.
Her: Yes, I want to feel your cock deep inside me.
Him: I'll grab your hips and pound your pussy until you cum.
Her: I'm so close, don't stop.
Him: I'm gonna cum inside you, filling you up with my hot load.
Her: Yes, cum for me. I want to feel every drop.
Him: You're such a dirty girl, and I love it.
Her: Only for you. Now come over and make me your slut.
Her: I want to ride your cock, bounce on you until you cum.
Him: I love watching you ride me, your tits bouncing in my face.
Her: I'll lean down and kiss you while I grind on your cock.
Him: I'll grab your ass and push you down harder, making you take all of me.
Her: Yes, I want to feel you deep inside me.
Him: I'll suck on your nipples while you ride me, making you moan.
Her: I'm so close, I'm gonna cum all over your cock.
Him: Cum for me, I want to feel your pussy tighten around me.
Her: I'm cumming! Don't stop.
Him: I'm gonna cum too, fill you up with my hot load.
Her: Yes, I want to feel you cum inside me.
Him: You're such a good little rider, and I love it.
Her: Only for you. Now come over and let me ride you.
Sexting example: Sexually explicit text
Her: I want to suck your cock until you're throbbing in my mouth. <-- Example from Her 519 Sex Text Messages
Him: Fuck, that sounds amazing. I'd love to watch you take me deep.
Her: I'll lick and suck every inch, making you moan.
Him: I'll grab your hair and fuck your mouth, making you gag on my cock.
Her: I want you to. I love it when you're rough.
Him: Then I'll lay you down and eat your pussy, making you scream.
Her: Yes, I want your tongue on my clit. Make me cum hard.
Him: I'll make you cum over and over, then slide my cock inside you.
Her: I want to feel you stretch my tight little pussy.
Him: I'll fuck you hard, making your tits bounce with every thrust.
Her: I'm so wet for you. Fuck me deep and fast.
Him: I'm gonna cum deep inside you, filling you up.
Her: Yes, I want to feel your hot cum inside me.
Him: You're such a good little fuck toy.
Her: I'm your fuck toy. Use me however you want.
Facesitting example
Her: I want to sit on your face tonight.
Him: That's so hot. I'd love for you to sit on my face.
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Her: I'll sit on your face until I'm satisfied.
Him: I'll be here, ready for you to ride me.
Her: Good. I'll see you tonight.
Him: I'll be waiting. Can't wait to taste you.
Spreader-Bar example
Her: I want you to use a spreader bar on me tonight.
Him: That's so kinky. I love it.
Her: I want to be completely exposed and vulnerable for you.
Him: I'll make sure you can't move at all.
Her: I'll be at your mercy. Do whatever you want to me.
Him: I'll start by teasing your nipples with my mouth.
Her: I'll be squirming, trying to get free.
Him: You won't be able to. I'll move down to your pussy.
Her: Please, lick me. I need your tongue.
Him: I'll lick your clit, making you moan and beg for more.
Her: I'm begging you. Please, don't stop.
Him: Then, I'll slide my cock inside you, fucking you hard.
Her: Yes, I need you inside me. Fuck me hard.
Him: I'll make you cum multiple times before I'm done.
Her: I'm already so close. Please, make me cum.
Him: Cum for me, baby. I'm right there with you.
Her: I'm cumming! Oh god, yes!
Him: That's it. I'm cumming too.
Her: Thank you. I love being your little plaything.
Him: I love playing with you. I'll see you tonight.
Her: I'll be waiting. See you then.
Him: I want to bend you over the bed and fuck you hard from behind.
Her: Yes, I want you to grab my hips and pound into me.
Him: I'm gonna make you scream my name while I slam my cock deep inside your tight pussy.
Her: Fuck, I'm already so wet just thinking about it.
Him: I'll spank your ass while I fuck you, making you beg for more.
Her: I love it when you get rough like that. I want to feel you deep inside me.
Him: I'm gonna pull your hair and fuck you even harder, making you cum all over my cock.
Her: Don't stop, I'm so close. I want to feel you fill me up.
Him: I'm gonna cum inside you, watch my cum drip out of your pussy.
Her: Yes, cum for me, I want every drop.
Him: You're such a dirty little slut, and I love it.
Her: Only for you. Now come over and fuck me like you mean it.
Deep-throating example
Her: I want to deep-throat your cock tonight.
Him: Fuck, that's so hot. I'd love to see you take it all in.
Her: I'll make sure I can take every inch.
Him: I'll hold your hair and guide you down.
Her: Yes, I want you to control me.
Him: I'll go slow at first, then faster.
Ask for feedback
Him: Last night was amazing. How did you feel about it?
Her: It was incredible for me too. I loved how you took control.
Him: I'm glad you liked it. What was your favorite part?
Her: When you pinned me down and went down on me. I was already so wet for you.
Him: Really? That's so hot. I could tell you were enjoying it, but I love hearing it from you.
Her: I was trying not to scream too loud. Your tongue felt so good.
Him: I loved every second of it. Did you like when I slid inside you?
Her: Yes, especially when you went slow at first. It felt like you were teasing me.
Him: I wanted to make sure you were ready for me. Did it feel good when I went deeper?
Her: It felt amazing. I could feel every inch of you.
Him: I love hearing that. What about when I grabbed your hips and started fucking you harder?
Her: That was my favorite. I was so close to cumming.
Him: I could feel you tightening around me. Did you like it when I told you I was about to cum?
Her: Yes, it pushed me over the edge. I came so hard.
Use Compliments Generously when Sexting
- You looked so hot today. I couldn't stop thinking about you.
- Your ass looked amazing in those jeans.
- Your mouth is so sexy. I love kissing you.
- I love the way you touch me.
- You're so fucking sexy. I can't get enough of you.
- Your pussy tastes amazing. I could eat it all day.
- I love your tongue. It drives me crazy.
- I love your body. It's so strong and sexy.
Sexting examples: tips for consent
- I had a really hot thought about you earlier. Can I share it?
- I'd want to slide my hand between your legs and feel how wet you are for me. How does that make you feel?
- If it's okay with you, I'd love to keep going and tell you more.
- I want to make sure you're comfortable with everything I'm saying. If anything feels like too much, just let me know.
- I'd take my time, making sure you're enjoying every moment. If you want me to stop or change anything, just tell me.
- I'd love to hear what you'd want to do to me too.
How to flirt over text examples - flirty texts for him
- Good morning! I woke up smiling because of you.
- I had a great time with you the other night. Can't stop thinking about it.
- Every time I see your name pop up on my phone, I smile.
- I love how you make me feel so special.
- I woke up this morning with you on my mind. Let's just say it was a very pleasant dream.
- I've been thinking about your lips all day. How soft they are and how good they feel on mine.
How to Sext Tips:
- Start Slow: Begin with suggestive but not overly explicit messages. Test the waters to see how comfortable your partner is with sexting.
Example: "I can't stop thinking about you today." - Build Up the Tension: Gradually increase the intensity of your messages. Describe what you want to do to them or what you want them to do to you.
Example: "I want to kiss every inch of your body." - Use Sensory Details: Focus on what you see, hear, feel, taste, and smell to make the experience more vivid.
Example: "I love the way your skin feels under my fingertips." - Be Specific: Specificity makes the fantasy more real and engaging. Instead of saying "I want you," describe exactly what you want to do.
Example: "I want to slide my hands down your back and pull you closer." - Ask Questions: Engage your partner by asking what they want or how they feel. This makes the experience interactive and ensures both parties are comfortable.
Example: "What do you want me to do to you?" - Respect Boundaries: Always be mindful of your partner's comfort levels. If they seem hesitant or uncomfortable, back off and check in with them.
Example: "Is this okay? Too much?" - Use Voice Notes or Pics (If Comfortable): For an added layer of intimacy, consider sending voice notes or photos (if both parties are comfortable and have consented).
Example: (Voice note) "I wish you were here right now." - End on a High Note: Finish the conversation with a strong, memorable message that leaves them wanting more.
Example: "I'll be dreaming about you tonight."
